When pressed to make a choice, I find most people would rather “get it right” than just “be right.”
We intuitively know that the ground truth is what we really want. The being right thing just gets stuck in the filtering system.
IMHO: A determined commitment to getting things right, which means willfully surrendering our need to be right is critical for the kind of dialogue your talk about. Not just lip service. We need to learn to relish perspectives and information that push our relationships with truth.
I don’t think it’s asking too much when the ground is what we truly want.
Thanks for sharing! I think this is the crucial part: “willfully surrendering our need to be right is critical for the kind of dialogue your talk about.”
This one took me a while to write. I hope it does what I meant it to do - I think we can all benefit from listening a little more deeply to each other.
As usual, you give a valuable lesson to all of us you follow you and your example. Being as old as I am, the experiences I’ve mainly had resulted in me being the listener without being listened to, so this hit me in my core. Thank you for the reminders and cues on how to be better listeners, they all make sense. Might be hard to remember sometimes, but worth the practice. Thank you.
Wow Alex—your reflection on listening is such a powerful reminder of the true depth and courage it takes to be fully present with another. This piece resonates deeply, particularly in a world so divided, where simply listening feels almost like a revolutionary act. Your recounting of the coffee shop interview beautifully illustrates how the act of listening can dissolve barriers and reveal the humanity we might otherwise overlook. Thank you for encouraging us to move from debate to dialogue and for making listening feel like the gift it truly is.
When pressed to make a choice, I find most people would rather “get it right” than just “be right.”
We intuitively know that the ground truth is what we really want. The being right thing just gets stuck in the filtering system.
IMHO: A determined commitment to getting things right, which means willfully surrendering our need to be right is critical for the kind of dialogue your talk about. Not just lip service. We need to learn to relish perspectives and information that push our relationships with truth.
I don’t think it’s asking too much when the ground is what we truly want.
Cheers for the prompt, Alexander.
Thanks for sharing! I think this is the crucial part: “willfully surrendering our need to be right is critical for the kind of dialogue your talk about.”
Great insights, thank you!
This one really hit me Alexander. So many great points and questions to sit with. Thank you.
This one took me a while to write. I hope it does what I meant it to do - I think we can all benefit from listening a little more deeply to each other.
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As usual, you give a valuable lesson to all of us you follow you and your example. Being as old as I am, the experiences I’ve mainly had resulted in me being the listener without being listened to, so this hit me in my core. Thank you for the reminders and cues on how to be better listeners, they all make sense. Might be hard to remember sometimes, but worth the practice. Thank you.
Wow Alex—your reflection on listening is such a powerful reminder of the true depth and courage it takes to be fully present with another. This piece resonates deeply, particularly in a world so divided, where simply listening feels almost like a revolutionary act. Your recounting of the coffee shop interview beautifully illustrates how the act of listening can dissolve barriers and reveal the humanity we might otherwise overlook. Thank you for encouraging us to move from debate to dialogue and for making listening feel like the gift it truly is.