Skip all the intro material and find the button that says "Launch Tool". You'll have a first draft written within a few minutes. And then if you want you can use Kevin's software to break your obituary down into bite sized goals.
It's probably time to do this again. Thx for reminder!
The long winding path of healing leads to an adventure. The speed track to healing only goes in circles.
I'm so glad my post resonated with you! It's amazing how writing our own obituaries can offer such clarity and perspective. I'm grateful you shared your own experience and that tool—it sounds incredibly helpful. I can't wait to check in out more. Sometimes we all need a little nudge to re-evaluate our path and focus on what truly matters.
I'm right there with you on the long and winding path of healing. It's definitely not always easy, but it's worth it. And hey, who said we can't have a few laughs along the way?
Damn... all of the chills. To be faced with immortality like that, completely unexpected... wow. The self-eulogy example has me feeling terrified to try... but in the best way. Because I already know there are going to be so many things that I know I'm holding back from, in fear. But to see it all written down, from the vantage point of what I've done now, vs. what I can be? DAMN. I'm definitely going to do this. Thank you so much for sharing all of this, and inspiring me and all of us. 🙏✨
Thank you, my friend, for reading and commenting. I think the self-eulogy approach is one of my most favorite coaching tools i’ve run into. It makes you sit with yourself in a way that helps you almost end, and move on, from an old self so that you can grow more. Thanks again for reading and commenting. 🩵
Thank you for your openness. As someone who has survived cancer twice, I resonate deeply with that feeling of not wanting to squander the second chance you’ve been given. An event like this is life-changing — and thankfully so!
I hope you’re doing well and I’m so glad you’re here! 😊
Thank YOU for sharing too. I am so glad you are here. Life is so precious, and so fragile. And perhaps, we all take it a bit for granted. I am just taking my recovery day by day. It has been a humbling experience to have to relearn to talk, and its created quite a bit of empathy for those that have struggled with that throughout their life. I so appreciate your comment, and I hope you are doing well too - surviving cancer twice is quite a set of experiences, and it is a lot to heal from (it's a trauma in itself).
Wow - relearning to talk is no small feat! That must be humbling. There is so much we take for granted everyday, even now after waking up to the vulnerability of life. I’m glad you’re on the road to recovery - I am too. And I haven’t had to do anything as huge as learning to talk (again)!
“What story will you write with your life”… this is strong and motivational! We all secretly want to believe we are immortal, but we are so vulnerable in this world.
What an experience you have had! Yes “you are lucky to be here” to create all your dreams true🎊🙏🏻 🤩
Thank you! Yes, this is a new moment to choose a slightly different path that is more aligned with what I want to accomplish! And I hope others can realize exactly what you shared - we are so vulnerable. We think we have so much time, so perhaps we take the long way to our dreams. But there is no better time than the present.
What a great tool to offer people the chance to write their own eulogy. I love the questions that came out of this accident for you. You are indeed here for a purpose. And I'm glad you were spared for whatever that purpose and legacy is. I had a little incident too. Not quite as dramatic, but it certainly left me questioning things and maybe asking, "Why am I here?" You can read it if you feel like it.
It was wonderful catching up with you too! Life throws us curveballs, and it's moments like those that remind us to cherish what truly matters. Thank you for your kind words and support. I'm on the mend, and it means so much to have friends like you in my corner.
Alex, the honesty you displayed in the first few minutes of this post really pulled me in, but this line here really stood out to me: "Authenticity will always be challenged in a society that prioritizes conformity over individuality." I had to stop reading, copy that, ponder it, and write this comment to you now. It's an incredible line. Great post. The ability to read posts like this are why Substack exists.
I'm so grateful for your thoughtful comment. It means a lot to me that my writing resonates with you on such a deep level.
I started this blog because I was tired of feeling like I had to hide who I really was. I was tired of chasing likes by only writing and producing things according to what people wanted. But that wasn't what I wanted. I wanted to create a space where people could come together and celebrate their individuality, even if it meant being a little unconventional.
Alex wow what a story! "If I left the earth today, had I left the mark I wanted on the world?". I have this thought several times a year and while it sounds morbid at times, it really brings your life into stark reality. I LOVE the idea of the eulogy writing, especially writing it twice, from a "now" perspective and a "dream life" perspective. I can imagine finding it hard to begin with, but then extremely cathartic. Thank you so much for this story in your life and the wonderful insights and ideas that come from it x
I love how you're already using the "if I were to die today" question as a catalyst for action. It's a powerful reminder that our time is finite and that we have the power to shape our own narratives.
I hope the eulogy exercise helps you further clarify your values and goals, and ultimately empowers you to live a life that feels truly fulfilling.
Alex, wow, I’m sorry this happened and also appreciate your reflections through the midst of it.
The way you can take a significant and I imagine quite physically painful moment and share with us deeper insights is such medicine. Thank you!
Wishing you well and drinking in the eulogy idea. I often think about “if I were to die today” and it sure puts a fire under me to do all of the things I WANT to do and not what I think I SHOULD do.
Thank you thank you thank you and sending many blessings your way!
Your comment made me smile. It's funny how a near-death experience can shift our priorities and make us question everything we thought we knew.
I recently had a conversation with a friend who shared a similar sentiment about living with a sense of urgency and purpose. It reminded me that even in the darkest of times, there's always an opportunity for growth and transformation.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I hope my story inspires you to continue chasing your dreams and living a life that feels authentic and meaningful.
I'm so touched by your comment. Life's fragility is something I'm acutely aware of these days, and I'm so grateful to be on the other side of my accident.
I can only imagine the depth of reflection that comes after caring for a loved one and experiencing their passing. It sounds like you're honoring your mother's memory by delving into what truly matters to you. I hope my post serves as a gentle nudge to continue that exploration.
Sending you warm wishes and strength on your journey.
Hey Dr Alexander.
What a life changing experience!
So glad you made it back here to share these lessons.
I wrote my own obituary two years ago. It gave me some real clarity in a very dark time coming out of suicidal ideation.
I didn't know where to start until I found this handy free tool at https://angstrom.life/goals
Skip all the intro material and find the button that says "Launch Tool". You'll have a first draft written within a few minutes. And then if you want you can use Kevin's software to break your obituary down into bite sized goals.
It's probably time to do this again. Thx for reminder!
The long winding path of healing leads to an adventure. The speed track to healing only goes in circles.
Looking forward to walking along with you 👊🏼
Hey Brad -
I'm so glad my post resonated with you! It's amazing how writing our own obituaries can offer such clarity and perspective. I'm grateful you shared your own experience and that tool—it sounds incredibly helpful. I can't wait to check in out more. Sometimes we all need a little nudge to re-evaluate our path and focus on what truly matters.
I'm right there with you on the long and winding path of healing. It's definitely not always easy, but it's worth it. And hey, who said we can't have a few laughs along the way?
Thanks again for reading.
Yes! More deep belly laughs! (minding the bruises of course)
Damn... all of the chills. To be faced with immortality like that, completely unexpected... wow. The self-eulogy example has me feeling terrified to try... but in the best way. Because I already know there are going to be so many things that I know I'm holding back from, in fear. But to see it all written down, from the vantage point of what I've done now, vs. what I can be? DAMN. I'm definitely going to do this. Thank you so much for sharing all of this, and inspiring me and all of us. 🙏✨
Thank you, my friend, for reading and commenting. I think the self-eulogy approach is one of my most favorite coaching tools i’ve run into. It makes you sit with yourself in a way that helps you almost end, and move on, from an old self so that you can grow more. Thanks again for reading and commenting. 🩵
Thank you for your openness. As someone who has survived cancer twice, I resonate deeply with that feeling of not wanting to squander the second chance you’ve been given. An event like this is life-changing — and thankfully so!
I hope you’re doing well and I’m so glad you’re here! 😊
Thank YOU for sharing too. I am so glad you are here. Life is so precious, and so fragile. And perhaps, we all take it a bit for granted. I am just taking my recovery day by day. It has been a humbling experience to have to relearn to talk, and its created quite a bit of empathy for those that have struggled with that throughout their life. I so appreciate your comment, and I hope you are doing well too - surviving cancer twice is quite a set of experiences, and it is a lot to heal from (it's a trauma in itself).
Wow - relearning to talk is no small feat! That must be humbling. There is so much we take for granted everyday, even now after waking up to the vulnerability of life. I’m glad you’re on the road to recovery - I am too. And I haven’t had to do anything as huge as learning to talk (again)!
Glad to have found you.
“What story will you write with your life”… this is strong and motivational! We all secretly want to believe we are immortal, but we are so vulnerable in this world.
What an experience you have had! Yes “you are lucky to be here” to create all your dreams true🎊🙏🏻 🤩
Thank you! Yes, this is a new moment to choose a slightly different path that is more aligned with what I want to accomplish! And I hope others can realize exactly what you shared - we are so vulnerable. We think we have so much time, so perhaps we take the long way to our dreams. But there is no better time than the present.
What a great tool to offer people the chance to write their own eulogy. I love the questions that came out of this accident for you. You are indeed here for a purpose. And I'm glad you were spared for whatever that purpose and legacy is. I had a little incident too. Not quite as dramatic, but it certainly left me questioning things and maybe asking, "Why am I here?" You can read it if you feel like it.
https://shellnorman.substack.com/p/i-think-i-know-who-i-am
I appreciate your kind words and also what you shared! Wonderful story.
Thank you. I feel the same about your story.
Thanks for the chat today. It was great to see you.
Life is so fragile, your story is a great reminder on remembering what should be important. Great advice. Heal well friend.
It was wonderful catching up with you too! Life throws us curveballs, and it's moments like those that remind us to cherish what truly matters. Thank you for your kind words and support. I'm on the mend, and it means so much to have friends like you in my corner.
Alex, the honesty you displayed in the first few minutes of this post really pulled me in, but this line here really stood out to me: "Authenticity will always be challenged in a society that prioritizes conformity over individuality." I had to stop reading, copy that, ponder it, and write this comment to you now. It's an incredible line. Great post. The ability to read posts like this are why Substack exists.
I'm so grateful for your thoughtful comment. It means a lot to me that my writing resonates with you on such a deep level.
I started this blog because I was tired of feeling like I had to hide who I really was. I was tired of chasing likes by only writing and producing things according to what people wanted. But that wasn't what I wanted. I wanted to create a space where people could come together and celebrate their individuality, even if it meant being a little unconventional.
Alex wow what a story! "If I left the earth today, had I left the mark I wanted on the world?". I have this thought several times a year and while it sounds morbid at times, it really brings your life into stark reality. I LOVE the idea of the eulogy writing, especially writing it twice, from a "now" perspective and a "dream life" perspective. I can imagine finding it hard to begin with, but then extremely cathartic. Thank you so much for this story in your life and the wonderful insights and ideas that come from it x
I love how you're already using the "if I were to die today" question as a catalyst for action. It's a powerful reminder that our time is finite and that we have the power to shape our own narratives.
I hope the eulogy exercise helps you further clarify your values and goals, and ultimately empowers you to live a life that feels truly fulfilling.
Alex, wow, I’m sorry this happened and also appreciate your reflections through the midst of it.
The way you can take a significant and I imagine quite physically painful moment and share with us deeper insights is such medicine. Thank you!
Wishing you well and drinking in the eulogy idea. I often think about “if I were to die today” and it sure puts a fire under me to do all of the things I WANT to do and not what I think I SHOULD do.
Thank you thank you thank you and sending many blessings your way!
Your comment made me smile. It's funny how a near-death experience can shift our priorities and make us question everything we thought we knew.
I recently had a conversation with a friend who shared a similar sentiment about living with a sense of urgency and purpose. It reminded me that even in the darkest of times, there's always an opportunity for growth and transformation.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I hope my story inspires you to continue chasing your dreams and living a life that feels authentic and meaningful.
Life is as fragile as tissue paper in a hurricane, Alexander. So glad you're recovering and back writing
Several times I've been exposed to writing my own obit. Rather than writing it down, I reflected for what felt like ages.
My mother, Mama Peggy, passed in 2022 at 96 after my caregiving of her 24/7, I've been deep diving --- what do I really want my legacy to be?
Thank you for bringing the idea to the forefront!
I'm so touched by your comment. Life's fragility is something I'm acutely aware of these days, and I'm so grateful to be on the other side of my accident.
I can only imagine the depth of reflection that comes after caring for a loved one and experiencing their passing. It sounds like you're honoring your mother's memory by delving into what truly matters to you. I hope my post serves as a gentle nudge to continue that exploration.
Sending you warm wishes and strength on your journey.
Funny thing is when I think about some things, I hear in my mind, "It really doesn't matter."
The question I most ask is, "Does it matter?" Then, I sit quietly before yes or no floats to the top of mind.
I'm getting a lot more no's today