Personal evolution is an ongoing journey of small steps and sudden leaps, honoring our past while embracing the unpredictable nature of growth and finding joy in the process.
This really hit home, Alex. It took me a while to realize that everything I’ve been through—every mistake, every struggle—made me who I am today. I used to think, "If only I’d hung out with the right people or had different parents, things would’ve been better." But the truth is, without those experiences, I wouldn’t have my story or newsletter.
Your point about evolution over transformation really resonates. Growth isn’t about erasing the past but learning from it, even during the quiet moments. Thanks for the reminder to trust the process.
So if I stop thinking that my past doesn’t define me and instead think that they are the ingredients that made me who I am does the guilt that accompanies them disappear too? I’ve always wanted to go back in time and fix what I did wrong, but knowing that’s impossible I instead try to make up for them in my present, but that doesn’t work either. I am not sure how to incorporate my biggest mistakes into the present me without guilt and regret. Over years of trying to make up for many of my mistakes I wound up not feeling worthy of any good I now have or have done in my life. For years, I thought that my past doesn’t define me, but if that’s not true than how can I now believe I am worthy once I believe those mistakes are part of me and I can never make up for them or rid myself of how they make me feel about myself? Putting into practice what you reveal here may not be possible for someone like me. Although I truly wish it was and then somehow I could look at my biggest mistakes as preparation for who I’ve become because of making them. Somehow though the guilt in my circumstance seems mighty powerful and impossible to dissolve since I should have known better than to have made them. Guess I have a long way to go before I can accomplish this new direction you show me here. Thank you for your positive influence.
This really hit home, Alex. It took me a while to realize that everything I’ve been through—every mistake, every struggle—made me who I am today. I used to think, "If only I’d hung out with the right people or had different parents, things would’ve been better." But the truth is, without those experiences, I wouldn’t have my story or newsletter.
Your point about evolution over transformation really resonates. Growth isn’t about erasing the past but learning from it, even during the quiet moments. Thanks for the reminder to trust the process.
I've always felt transforming was what I needed. Thanks for sharing a kinder, gentler approach!
So if I stop thinking that my past doesn’t define me and instead think that they are the ingredients that made me who I am does the guilt that accompanies them disappear too? I’ve always wanted to go back in time and fix what I did wrong, but knowing that’s impossible I instead try to make up for them in my present, but that doesn’t work either. I am not sure how to incorporate my biggest mistakes into the present me without guilt and regret. Over years of trying to make up for many of my mistakes I wound up not feeling worthy of any good I now have or have done in my life. For years, I thought that my past doesn’t define me, but if that’s not true than how can I now believe I am worthy once I believe those mistakes are part of me and I can never make up for them or rid myself of how they make me feel about myself? Putting into practice what you reveal here may not be possible for someone like me. Although I truly wish it was and then somehow I could look at my biggest mistakes as preparation for who I’ve become because of making them. Somehow though the guilt in my circumstance seems mighty powerful and impossible to dissolve since I should have known better than to have made them. Guess I have a long way to go before I can accomplish this new direction you show me here. Thank you for your positive influence.