The Day My "But What Ifs" Staged a Revolt (In a Good Way)
I used to be a master at self-sabotage.
Not in the dramatic, burn-it-all-down kind of way. No, mine was a quieter, more insidious form. It was the art of shrinking my own aspirations, of convincing myself that aiming for the stars was a fool's errand.
Whenever a truly exciting possibility would emerge, a "what if" that made my heart race with possibility, my mind would swoop in like a SWAT team, armed with a list of reasons why it couldn't, shouldn't, wouldn't work. And like a well-trained hostage, I'd surrender to those limitations, trading in my dreams for the perceived safety of the ordinary.
But then something shifted.
I was meditating one day when a persistent "but what if" bubbled to the surface. At first, it was a small, quiet whisper, easily dismissed by my inner critic, but it refused to be silenced.
Each time my mind countered with a "but that's impossible" or a "you're not good enough," the "but what if" grew louder, stronger, more insistent. It was like those tiny rebels in Star Wars, taking on the mighty Empire with nothing but hope and a few well-aimed shots.
And you know what? My little rebellion won.
My carefully constructed wall of limitations crumbled, and in its place, a spark of possibility ignited. It was the day I realized that maybe, just maybe, those dreams weren't so far-fetched after all.
Where Did Our Dreams Go?
(Or, Why We're All Secretly Tired of "Living the Dream")
Remember when you were a kid and dreaming was as natural as breathing?
Yeah, me neither. Okay, maybe I do, vaguely. But somewhere along the way, "living the dream" became less about soaring through the cosmos and more about... well, just surviving the day.
It's like we got handed this giant adulting manual with a big, fat warning label: "Danger: May result in tragically tiny dreams." We started seeing life through the lens of limitations and negativity, and those once-sparkling dreams? They got shoved into the dusty attic of our minds.
Suddenly, becoming president seemed about as likely as winning the lottery while being struck by lightning... twice. (Okay, maybe not that unlikely, but you get the picture.) We traded in our audacious dreams for "realistic" ones, which, let's be honest, are often just glorified to-do lists.
And then we wonder why we're chugging coffee by the gallon just to make it through the day. Why we feel like we're sleepwalking through life, mumbling "living the dream" with the enthusiasm of a potted plant.
The truth is, when our dreams become dull, so do our lives. Burnout becomes our new normal, and fulfillment? Well, let's just say it's not exactly knocking on our door.
So, What's the Cure for This Dream Deficiency?
It's tempting to say, "Just dream bigger!" But if it were that easy, we'd all be living in unicorn-powered mansions by now. The reality is, those limiting beliefs we've picked up along the way are like those pesky weeds in your garden – they keep popping up when you least expect them.
But here's the good news: you have the power to yank those weeds out! It's time to reclaim your dream-making abilities, to dust off those forgotten aspirations, and to give yourself permission to think BIG.
Let's break free from those self-imposed constraints and rediscover the joy of dreaming without limits. Who knows, maybe that unicorn-powered mansion isn't so far-fetched after all. 😉
Unleash Your Inner Dreamer
A Quick Tool to Excavate Those Buried Aspirations
Alright, let's get down to business. It's time to dust off that imagination and unearth those dreams that have been hiding in the shadows. (Don't worry, they won't bite... probably.)
Grab a pen and paper (or your trusty laptop), set a timer for 15 minutes, and let's dive in! Ask yourself these questions:
What feels impossible, but you secretly crave it anyway? (Think: climbing Mount Everest in a tutu, writing a bestselling novel while juggling flaming torches, or finally mastering the art of parallel parking.)
What future scenario makes you a.b.s.o.l.u.t.e.l.y. giddy with excitement? (Imagine yourself giving a TED Talk, opening an animal sanctuary, or finally inventing that self-folding laundry contraption.)
What idea feels so big it almost scares you, but you're strangely drawn to it anyway? (Maybe it's starting your own business, traveling the world solo, or finally confronting that fear of public speaking.)
If you could be the ultimate version of yourself, who would you be? (Think big! Would you be a renowned artist, a world-class chef, or a superhero saving the world from rogue squirrels?)
What problem in the world do you want to solve? (This could be anything from ending world hunger to designing the perfect pair of noise-canceling headphones.)
Time for Some Introspection (Don't Worry, It Won't Hurt... Much)
Once you've scribbled down your dream (or at least the starting point of one), take 5 minutes to reflect on the experience.
What was the hardest part of this exercise? (Was it silencing that inner critic, coming up with ideas in the first place, or the overwhelming urge to check your email?)
What voices popped up in your head? What were they saying? And where do you think those voices come from? (Is it your inner perfectionist, your childhood fear of failure, or that one neighbor who always seems to rain on your parade?)
What insights have you gained from this whole dream-digging adventure? (Did you realize you have more dreams than you thought, that your inner critic needs a serious time-out, or that maybe, just maybe, those dreams aren't so impossible after all?)
Remember, reflection is the key to integrating these dreams into your life. So, get cozy with those thoughts and feelings, and let the insights flow.
So, You've Dug Up Your Dreams... Now What?
Listen, I know all this dream talk can feel a bit woo-woo.
But trust me, there's power in unearthing those buried desires. It's like finding a treasure map to a life you didn't even know you were craving.
Now, I'm not saying it's going to be all rainbows and unicorns from here on out.
(Although, wouldn't that be nice?)
There will be challenges, setbacks, and moments where you want to throw in the towel and crawl back into bed.
(We've all been there.)
But here's the thing: those big, audacious dreams? They're worth fighting for. They're the fuel that ignites your soul, the compass that guides you towards a life that truly lights you up.
So, embrace the discomfort, dance with the fear, and keep those dreams close to your heart. Take one small step today, another tomorrow, and before you know it, you'll be looking back and wondering why you ever doubted yourself in the first place.
Now go out there and make some magic happen. The world is waiting for you. ✨
Thank you for this very inspiring post. Timely for me as I continue to unearth and try to get clear on my own dreams (and after this shifty New Moon eclipse)! I plan on trying out the prompts. ✍️
Love all of these prompts (and your creative extras like ridding the world of rogue squirrels 🐿️ ). I’ve also been a quiet self saboteur but things are changing, bit by bit.